If you have been studying, for any amount of time, the ideas of improving yoursefl, you must have come across the idea that we create or choose our reality we then experience.

A very basic example that has found entry in the general population is the the difference in view of a glass half full or half empty.

Both persons look at a class that is filled to half of its capacity.One person views this as a glass half empty with a feeling of scarcity, as half of the content is already gone and there is only this much left.

The other person sees this as half full, with the happy emotion that he still has half of the original content for him to indulge in.

Both persons look at the same 'fact', but the emotion during their experience of the glass is very different. I don't want to pass on the idea that one is better than the other, it is not - they are just different, and each person has chosen his or her point of view. I could attempt to suggest the person who views the glass as half empty to try the other view to feel better about the situation. But how do I know if this would actually make the person feel better?

If we assume that the person has chosen that view-point, then it probably has because it serves a purpose. So, let's not get into the habbit of suggesting a person how to feel because this is in the end completely out of our control.

What we have control over is how we see it. In other words, if I try to make another person see a situation in a way that would be more comfortable for me, the I do exactly the same thing I try the person not to do: The person sees the glass half empty and I see the person as not seeing things the right way.

If I want to suggest the person to see the glass half full to feel better - why don't I start by seeing the person good and correct and feel better about it?

Does that mean that I can't say anything to another person where I see that the person could improve?

Yes, exactly!

But what I can do is tell stories and examples on how I handled situations. But the only reason for doing so would be to help ME see this person as being perfect as he or she is.

If I tell a person to see a situation differently and create positive and feel-ggod emotions while having these thoughts, then I only tell myself to do the same thing.

As I write this I realize again that the only reason I do write these words is to help me understand that all you, reading these lines, are perfect and totally right in everything you do.

If you, dear reader, then decide to make a shift in your viewpoints, then this is exclusively your choise and it is equally great from my point of view of you.

But I can't help it - I have to give you this advise on the way: The contemporary literature on this subject often talks about the idea of thinking the right thoughts that help us manifest our dreams. The question of what is thought is very important in this context. You can run around the words - I am rich, I am rich - all day long without stearing into the direction of being rich. But if the feeling, the gut feeling, does not confirm these words, nothing will happen. And we all do these kind of crazy stunts all the time - think in words different than what the feeling says.

This is why we need training. Just like the leg that was in a cast for six weeks, need building up with persistence, we need training to help us accomplish the persistence to align thoughs in the form or words with the emotions that have to go with them to create the desired effect.